I was having a conversation the other day with my oldest about demographics and the different generations. I insisted she was a Millennial, and she insisted she was not. Then we started talking about the different generations and who belonged to which one.
I did some quick Googling and discovered that the Census Bureau only officially recognizes the Baby Boom generation. The other generations vary depending on who you ask, because there is no ‘final authority’ on generations, just mainstream/pop culture use. There are as many definitions as there are people.
Turns out, she was right, she isn’t a Millennial, nor is her sibling. However, they both thought that I was from the Baby Boom generation. (That did wonders for my ego, I can tell you.) I happen to be from that forgotten generation – the Gen Xers. The kids who grew up watching Saturday morning cartoons and thinking that Merlin and Super Simon were technological marvels. The generation of shoulder pads, big hair, and Michael Jackson Pepsi commercials.
I had my kids later in life, so they missed the Gen Y/Millennial generation. My kids are Gen Z/iGen – those kids who think that there’s an app for EVERYTHING.
We started talking about all of this because of the current ‘OK, Boomer’ phenomenon. My youngest asked me how I felt about it and was taken aback when I said it didn’t bother me, because I wasn’t a Boomer. Personally, I think it’s kind of funny – on several levels. Just surface funny, because I think it’s true – Boomers are now in their late 60s- 70s, and I think once you reach that age, you have reached the ‘Get off my lawn!’ stage of life. And also ironically funny, because from what I’ve seen, it’s mostly Gen Z kids saying it to their parents, who aren’t Boomers, but are Gen X or GenY.
How do you feel about the ‘OK, Boomer’ issue? What generation are you from? Are there things you like/dislike about your generation? Things you like/dislike about younger generations?
I think this is my least favorite mandala of all the ones I’ve drawn so far. I was experimenting with lines and overlaps, but it just didn’t turn out the way I was hoping it would. I almost didn’t post this one, but I want to be transparent about my failures, so – here it is!
One of the things that is always stressed to bloggers is to write ‘evergreen’ content – content that is generally ‘timeless’ and generally useful, in order to keep traffic coming to your blog.
It does work, and I strive to write some of that ‘evergreen’ content on my own blog. However, I recently came across an issue with this ‘evergreen’ content that I hadn’t encountered before.
I was reading a thoughtfully written post, and I wanted to comment on some of the things that were written because I had some personal experience with the topic. The post was new, just posted that day, and it already had hundreds of comments and likes. Great! The blogger must be doing a good job, and I was excited to post something into what seemed like a busy community on the blog.
So I was confused when I scrolled down to comment and discovered that the comments were over a year old.
Why would I want to comment on a post that was written over a year ago? I mean, I could just leave a comment, but for me, the point of commenting is to try and build a community and interact with them. On a post that’s over a year old, who’s still paying attention? In today’s social media/instant gratification world, I have my doubts that anyone would be.
It got me thinking. While I want that ‘evergreen’ content to keep people finding and returning to my blog, I don’t want my readers to feel like I did after my experience.
I felt – tricked. If I had known from the beginning that I was reading an old post, I would likely still have read it and perhaps returned to read other things, knowing that I might find some new gems from this blogger.
But since it appeared the post was freshly published, it seemed a bit shady to republish something a year old and make it look like a new post. If the blogger wanted to re-post it, why not just add a blurb at the beginning about it being an older post? Or write a new post that links back to the old content?
I know a lot of bloggers share older content on social media and I think that’s fine, as it generally is apparent once you go to the post that it is older content. But again, the way this post was handled, I ended up feeling tricked and unfollowed the blog because of it. Maybe it’s just my background in education, but not having a date on content is a pet peeve of mine. If I’m looking something up, many times the information is time-dependent. For instance, if I want to look up a comparison between Verizon and Sprint, a post about that from 3 years ago is probably no longer relevant today.
The whole situation just left a bad taste in my mouth and I wondered how other bloggers handled this issue. How do you feel about this? Do you re-post old content as if it’s new? If so, have you ever gotten a bad reaction from a reader?
When I started this blog, it was with the intent to open a planner sticker business on Etsy. I’m still not there yet, but that’s a post for another day.
I am working on it, creating stickers that I could sell. I’ve concentrated on things I would use first, because if I never sell anything, at least I’ve created something I will use myself.
I’ve been a planner girl since forever. When I was in school, it was a way to keep track of my homework. As I got older, it became a way to keep track of my life. And I’m still using them.
As in, plural. Something I never have done before. I’ve always just had one planner, and it was one with a monthly spread, because I never use the weekly ones. I want to be able to glance at my month and see what’s going on that month. Drilling down into weekdays and hours is just too much for me. I get information overload.
However, since I dove into the world of planner stickers, I realized I had no idea how many people seem to use planners these days – and multiple ones, at that.
In the planner community, there are two big planner companies. Each of those companies sells multiple types of planners – different layouts, different themes, different sizes, etc. But they also sell planners for multiple purposes. You can buy a fitness/workout planner, a budget planner, a faith planner, a life planner, a household planner, a kids’ planner, and more.
I’ve watched plenty of YouTube videos of planner people who use these multiple planners and thought, sheesh, why would you need that many planners?
I’m now one of them.
I have my original, cheap $5 2 year monthly planner. I have my bill planner (it’s really just a small spiral notebook where I track my bills). Now I also have a yearly planner from one of the two big companies – because I needed to know what it was like to use one before I could make/sell stickers for it, right? And I bought a budget pack from that same company – again, because I need to know how people use it before I can make stuff for it, right? And I’m currently trying to talk myself out of buying a planner from the other company for the same reasons.
Oh, I forgot, I have a Bullet Journal that I’ve been trying to use again. The BuJo was appealing because it was functional and not focused on ‘pretty,’ but if you spend any time on YouTube, you’ll find tons of artists who show off their illustrated-to-the-nines BuJos.
So, that’s now 5 (5!) planners I’m using. Which is ridiculous, I know. Especially since some of these planners are $40 and up. But I’m having a hard time paring them down. I’m actually enjoying using the new yearly planner. 2 issues with it – one, it has lots of pages for weekdays that I will never use, so that’s a waste of trees and money, and 2, the monthly spread, while good, isn’t big enough. Since I only use the monthly spread, that’s a whole month’s worth of stuff that has to get written down – bills, appointments, schedules, holidays – for 4 people, since I track everyone in my household. I suppose I could size up to the bigger planner, but then that’s even more money (and pages I won’t use, because it also has pages for weekdays).
And even though I understand the whole ‘sunk cost fallacy,’ I find it hard to get rid of my original cheap $5 planner, because it’s good for another whole year! And it’s bigger than my new planner, so I have more room to write stuff down.
I am planning to get rid of my little spiral bill planner, because I do like the new budget planner I’ve been using. Recording things in both places is getting obnoxious, and the new one has much more space to write. I guess it’s just resistance to change that’s keeping me using both.
I also could incorporate my new budget planner into my new yearly planner – the rings are designed so that you can add/remove/rework pages as necessary. I just haven’t done it yet. Doing those two things would at least get me down to 3 planners instead of 5, which is something.
I have also explored the idea of using digital planners for all these things, but honestly, I like using an analog planner. I like writing with my pens, the feel of the paper, and the stickers. Digital planning just wouldn’t be the same, plus I’d be worried about it all somehow getting hacked. So for now, analog planning is the plan.
I’m still trying to figure out if the Bullet Journal is something I want to stick with. I like that it’s functional, but I’m discovering I would also like it to be pretty. Something that seems a lot easier with my yearly planner than the BuJo. We shall see.
I kinda feel like I ran out of steam on this one. The inner circles are pretty full, which I like, but then it seems to get less ornate as you reach the outer edge. I might have a go at coloring this one and see how it turns out.
Last week I posted about keeping your online identity separate from your real life and wondered whether it was possible. I know that being online comes with a risk, and that the only way to protect your data is to not be online at all. Actually, I’m not sure that’s even true, given how many companies sell our data. I mean, my mortgage bank could sell my data, my insurance company, my credit card company – you name it, they’ve probably sold it. And everything is hackable – everything. So the best we can do is try to be risk-aware, and be as safe as possible.
But it’s always something.
A couple of days ago, I got an email from Reddit asking me to verify my email address. Problem – I didn’t sign up for a Reddit account. Immediately suspicious of a phishing attempt, I looked at the email sender’s address – an https link to reddit.com. I looked at the verify link – also an https link to reddit.com. And the third link (again, an https link to reddit.com) – one to click on to say that it wasn’t me who had set up this account. Which means this happens often enough that companies like Reddit know to include that last option.
Now, I have no idea why someone would need to use my email to open a Reddit account. I mean, email addresses are free and easy to get from a variety of sources. So why mine? I have had this happen before, with another email. Someone shopping at Lulelemon (someplace I would never shop) used one of my email addresses and I got not only spam emails (which I’m assuming was the point of not using their own email address), I also got their purchase receipts. With name, address, phone number, etc. Now, those could have been someone else’s too, I suppose, but it seems dumb to avoid spam by using someone else’s email address and then hand that person your (possible) personal information.
So, I managed to let Reddit know that it was not me who had signed up for the account and they have removed my email. However, since using other people’s email addresses is apparently a thing, for my own peace of mind, I’m going to take some preemptive action. I’ve been putting off signing up for social media accounts because – well, honestly, because I don’t like social media. I know I’m going to have to use it eventually, though, and this has just precipitated my signing up.
At the very least, signing up will ensure that no one else can try to use my email for those sites, even if I never use them myself. Which, for many of them, I likely won’t. It still won’t keep people from trying to use my email, but hopefully it will make it just a little more difficult to succeed.
Have you ever had this happen to you? How did you resolve the issue?
What is enough? This question has been on my mind a lot lately. With an ever-growing gap between the haves and have-nots, is there a point where you have enough?
I think people would be a lot happier if they would stop and think about what it is they truly want. Not what society tells them they should want, not what ads tell them they should want – but what they actually want.
I mean, I could say I want a million dollars, and that sounds great, because I currently don’t have a million dollars. But is that really what I want? And would a million dollars be enough? What about 2 million? 10 million? 10 billion? How much of anything do you actually need?
Now, I get that there’s a difference between need and want. We all need a safe place to call home, to have our physical needs met (water, food, sleep, etc.), and love in our life. But how much of the other stuff in our lives is because we’ve been convinced we need it when we really don’t?
I think this occupies a lot of my thinking because I want to move and downsize. My current home is not a mansion by any means, but it’s still too big for the people who live in it. There’s a large room in our home that doesn’t do anything but hold furniture. We use it on the odd holiday, but other than that, it’s just a place that dust gathers.
I have a closet full of clothes, but I probably only routinely wear about 1/4 of it. Our kitchen is full of gadgets we’ve used once and then forgotten about. We have a treadmill, an elliptical, and an inverter table that no one uses. (We got rid of the punching bag and the weight set.) They, too, gather dust. You know, for that day when suddenly we all become fitness fanatics.
When I’m older, I don’t want a huge house to take care of. I don’t want to spend all my time cleaning things I never use. I don’t want to tie my money up in useless things and then sit surrounded by those useless things. I want to be able to travel. I want to be able to stay home.
When I think about what I want, I need to be honest with myself. For example, I’m an introvert and while I like to travel and see new things, traveling is hard for me. It’s a lot of ‘new’ getting thrown at me, a lot of social situations I’m uncomfortable with, and if I’m not careful, the traveling wears me down and I end up spending more time in a hotel recharging than I do getting out and doing the things I want.
So while I’d love to travel, selling everything and traveling the world for a while, while certainly possible, is not at all something that would suit me. My husband and I are fascinated with the tiny house movement and have often talked about buying a tiny house or RV and traveling the country. It seems like a great idea for me – I can travel and see things, but I have my own house/space to recharge in when I need to.
I don’t want to travel forever, however, and I will eventually want another house. A much smaller house, though. Two bedrooms, two baths – enough room for guests when we have them, but no so much space that I spend all my time cleaning.
I think for most people, it’s not that we want to necessarily be rich. It’s just that, generally speaking, if you have money, you have less to worry about. Some people will argue that point, but I think for the most part it’s true. Having money means you don’t have to worry about a place to live, putting food on the table, or having a medical issue sending you spiraling into bankruptcy. And I think that’s what we all want, really – to not have to worry. Money doesn’t solve every problem, certainly, but it solves a lot of them.
Of course, marketers and social media are very good at making you feel like you need ALL. THE. THINGS. Have an iPhone? Great – is it the newest one? If not, then girrrl, you need to get on down to the Apple store. I mean, who doesn’t need to spend $1000 on a new phone? Am I right?
And once you get it, don’t forget to let everyone on social media know you have one. What?! You don’t social media? Gasp of horror! How will you know your self-worth if you don’t have total strangers on the internet directing your self-esteem and validating your existence with likes and shares?!
Ok, that was probably a tad over-dramatic, but hopefully you get my point.
So, what does enough look like for you? Do you need a million dollars? A billion? A huge McMansion? A sporty supercar? A closet full of designer label clothing? Vacations all over the world? What is it you truly want out of life?
Privacy has become a big issue in today’s world. Big business owners like Mark Zuckerberg want to convince you that privacy is dead, while at the same time retaining a stranglehold on their own. Why? Because they can make billions off your lack of privacy. That’s all. Simple greed.
I grew up before the internet existed. (Yes, it is possible to survive childhood without the internet, I promise.) Cell phones were not ubiquitous – mostly because when I was a kid, they were hella expensive and the size of a dictionary. 😛
When the internet became a thing, we didn’t think about the consequences. (Same thing as nuclear bombs and plastics and asbestos and cell phones and, and well, pretty much everything we invent.) It’s new, so it must be good, right?
I’ve always been a private person, even as a kid. Probably due in large part to my lack of social skills, but also because I’m an introvert, and being around a lot of people is mentally and emotionally exhausting for me. I don’t like, nor do I want, everyone knowing my business.
So, why am I on the internet, you ask? Good question. I suppose because I get something out of blogging that I can’t find anywhere else, and also because the benefits to me outweigh the risks.
I think of myself as a normal person, but my sister constantly teases me about my tinfoil hat. I’m not a conspiracy theorist by any means, but I don’t think it’s wrong to try and limit the potential risks of being online.
I pay bills online, I blog, I am hopefully at some point soon going to open an online Etsy shop. But I do try to keep my real life and my online life as separate as I can. Is that weird? Do other people not do this?
I have a cell phone, but I really only use it for texting and (gasp!) phone calls. I do have an email account on it, but that’s pretty much it. I have a few apps (less than 5) that I have installed, most of the rest of the stuff on the phone are things that came with the phone that I can’t delete.
I don’t really do social media. I used to have a Facebook, but I do not like their lack of ethics, so I deleted it years ago. I don’t have an Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, or anything else. I don’t like someone else (whether it’s a person or an algorithm) deciding for me what I should see and when.
Maybe because I grew up without the internet, being without those things doesn’t bother me. On the other hand, my children, who have definitely grown up with the internet, don’t really do social media either. They text their friends, and they play online games. But neither one of them have a Facebook or Instagram or Twitter or Snapchat or whatever other new shiny has popped up lately.
As more and more information comes out about how companies are using data in unethical ways, I find myself trying even harder to maintain the separation between my real life and my online life. Which, admittedly, is becoming more and more difficult. Not only because so many companies are trading data as a commodity, but also because the people who use the internet (you know, us regular people), value authenticity. (That’s what the prevailing wisdom says, anyway.) Is it possible to be authentic and still keep your real life separate from your online life?