People think of failure as the end.
It’s a chance to start again.
I’ve always been the kind of person who has several projects going at once. When I was younger, I had the energy for lots of things, but not the time. The older I get, the more time I have, but the less energy.
So, that means I sometimes have to admit defeat. Not every project I start will get completed.
And that’s okay.
Failure is how we learn. My most recent failure taught me that starting over is okay.
Over a year ago, I started to crochet an afghan for my mother-in-law. It’s a simple pattern, and one I’ve made before, so I know I can do it. However, this time the pattern was giving me fits.
Every row it seemed like my stitch count got off somehow and I would have to rip it out and start over. I finally got through about 25 rows.
Or so I thought.
On row 26, suddenly my stitch count was off again, and I couldn’t figure out where. After ripping out several rows and still finding myself off, I decided to put the project aside for a while.
Fast forward to last week, when I finally picked it up again. (That old adage – “Out of sight, out of mind” – is apparently true.)
I still couldn’t figure out where I was off. So I decided to admit defeat. My frustration with the whole thing was exacerbated by the fact that I didn’t have enough skeins of matching yarn to finish anyway. (I kept telling myself I’d go buy the rest, but I never did.)
So I sat down and unraveled the whole thing. I now have a large 3-skein ball of yarn. I don’t, however, have a barely done afghan sitting in my office taunting me. And when I was done rolling up the yarn, I actually felt better.
I made a decision about the project and now I am able to let the guilt about not completing it go. My mother-in-law didn’t even know I was making it, so the only person it was bothering was me. And frankly, I have better ways I can spend my time than feeling guilty.
So if you find yourself lamenting a project you haven’t completed, think about why you are hanging on to it. Is it because you truly want to work on it? Probably not, or you would have completed it.
In the words of everyone’s favorite ice princess – Let it go! 😀